The Soulmate Equation

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Hello! Happy almost March (wow! how is that possible?!) friends! We’ve made it to the end of February which means it’s time to dive in and discuss The Soulmate Equation by Christina Lauren. I loved this book and I thought it’s modern take on true love was a perfect choice for February, especially when we celebrate love all month long. I can’t wait to hear your thoughts, so meet me in the comments and let’s get into it!

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A huge part of this story is the idea that GeneticAlly can quantify compatibility. Do you believe love is scientifically quantifiable? Are there any other factors at play?

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Many dating apps and sites give users tests to determine compatibility, and there are multiple genetic ancestry and profiling tools currently on the market. Do you think something like DNADuo might become a reality someday?

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How does Jess’s perception of herself differ from Fizzy’s, Juno’s, and River’s perceptions of her? Does her self-perception change over the course of the novel?

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  1. 1.

    A huge part of this story is the idea that GeneticAlly can quantify compatibility. Do you believe love is scientifically quantifiable? Are there any other factors at play?

    Love isn’t science – there are so many factors that life throws our way. When the tough times hit emotion overpowers logic. Genetics may help compatibility but they can’t hold the entire playbook for true love and it’s complexities.

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    Many dating apps and sites give users tests to determine compatibility, and there are multiple genetic ancestry and profiling tools currently on the market. Do you think something like DNADuo might become a reality someday?

    I think it is definitely a possibility. I’m not sure how much I would buy into the genetic compatibility though!

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    How does Jess’s perception of herself differ from Fizzy’s, Juno’s, and River’s perceptions of her? Does her self-perception change over the course of the novel?

    Jess is so focused on being a mom that she lets the stress of life keep her from experiencing life to its fullest. Fizzy sees that Jess deserves happiness with River. River sees Jess as a hard working lovable woman and Juno sees her mom as a fantastic mom even though Jess sees herself as just scraping by. When Jess embraces her life and stands up to her mother and accepts River as a partner she gives herself the chance to truly embrace the happiness that life is offering her.

  2. 1. A huge part of this story is the idea that GeneticAlly can quantify compatibility. Do you believe love is scientifically quantifiable? Are there any other factors at play?

    Maayyyybeeee you can quantify compatibility based on personality tests and genetic predispositions, but I feel like the reason love is so grand (pardon the cliche) is because there’s wonder involved. Two people who find each other and make a life together is pretty magical and I just don’t think you can quantify that.

    2. Many dating apps and sites give users tests to determine compatibility, and there are multiple genetic ancestry and profiling tools currently on the market. Do you think something like DNADuo might become a reality someday?

    While I was reading I had the thought I was surprised it wasn’t already on the market. I’m sure it will be in the next few years.

    3. How does Jess’s perception of herself differ from Fizzy’s, Juno’s, and River’s perceptions of her? Does her self-perception change over the course of the novel?

    She describes herself very negatively at the beginning of the story…someone with baggage, someone with the fashion sense of a 5th grader, etc. but over time I think she begins to see a glimpse of what the others see in her.

    They see someone who overcame challenging circumstances to create a life for herself and her daughter, a good friend, a loving mother and granddaughter…and ultimately a caring partner. I really liked Jess’ character in this book and finished the last page wondering what was going to happen to her next.

  3. 1.

    A huge part of this story is the idea that GeneticAlly can quantify compatibility. Do you believe love is scientifically quantifiable? Are there any other factors at play?

    I think this is such an interesting concept. Sometimes we make poor love choices b/c we let our emotions cloud red flags that pop up. If you could start knowing you are compatible at a base level, then maybe relationships would be more successful. But I also think that there are so many aspects of a relationship that are un-quantifiable. Sometimes, you miss really great people because you decide ahead of time that you won’t work.

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    Many dating apps and sites give users tests to determine compatibility, and there are multiple genetic ancestry and profiling tools currently on the market. Do you think something like DNADuo might become a reality someday?

    I definitely think it’s possible that this could happen. But I’d rather they spend more time and research on solving genetic causes of illness 🙂 People have been successfully matching up for many years now. I feel like arranged marriages could have the same level of success LOL

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    How does Jess’s perception of herself differ from Fizzy’s, Juno’s, and River’s perceptions of her? Does her self-perception change over the course of the novel?

    Jess doesn’t love herself or prioritize herself at the beginning of the novel , but she is surrounded by people who SEE her and build her up. They show her who she is until she can see it herself. Being in love with the right person can really help you love yourself. I know my husband sees good in me where I don’t see it, but b/c he does, I try to see it in myself. Everyone should also have a friend like Fizzy!

  4. 1. I don’t think love itself is scientifically quantifiable… qualities/personalities/interests all have factors in choosing a partner, but love “loves” in spite of flaws, disagreements, the nitty gritty parts of life and that seems to be a *choice* regardless of a compatibility score.

    2. I can definitely see this happening in 5-10 years time. Measuring compatibility and EQ+IQ scores would definitely be a dating app algorithm game changer!

    3. Jess’s self perspective grows so much in this book and I Love. That. For. Her! She is analytical, ethical, resilient, and strong. Fizzy encourages her romantic side, Juno sees her as a real life superhero I think, and River encourages her hope, trust, and understanding of others. She learns to share the load throughout the book and there’s something so beautiful about the reliability of a best friend or partner that I think is highlighted really well in this book!

  5. 1. I personally don’t think love is scientific. In my opinion, the biggest factor is timing. When you are ready to be in a committed relationship. Think that’s why you hear about couples that knew each other & years later reconnect. The timing just wasn’t right the first time around.

    2. While it doesn’t make sense to me, I do think something like DNAduo will come into the market someday. I’ve been married 20 years so this is all out of my wheelhouse, but I don’t think couples meet the same ways anymore. Think that’s why I love Hallmark movies ~ I love the “meet cutes”

    3. It does!! Fizzy & Juno were the best supporting characters! Would love to see them do a follow up novel with Fizzy as the main character.

    Another gem Ashley! Can’t wait to see what you choose for March!! I used to really follow what Reese Witherspoon & Jenna Bush Hager were reading, but I am enjoying your selections so much more! You are a bright light & will be such a wonderful mom

  6. 1. A huge part of this story is the idea that GeneticAlly can quantify compatibility. Do you believe love is scientifically quantifiable? Are there any other factors at play?

    Oh, I think all factors are in play to be honest! Do I think it’s Scientifically quantifiable? MAYBE, who knows?!? But I definitely think it’s about choices, chemistry, and a bit of magic! 😉

    2. Many dating apps and sites give users tests to determine compatibility, and there are multiple genetic ancestry and profiling tools currently on the market. Do you think something like DNADuo might become a reality someday?

    Oh, for sure! I’m constantly blown away by new technology, I don’t see how this doesn’t become some sort of reality one day.

    3. How does Jess’s perception of herself differ from Fizzy’s, Juno’s, and River’s perceptions of her? Does her self-perception change over the course of the novel?

    I love how Jess just totally blooms in this book and becomes the woman we all knew was in her. But I also LOVED the female friendships in this book!

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